'So, what happened??'
Haha, funnily enough I expected this one! This surprisingly is oneof the least asked questions I get as I get older. When you’re young children ask straight up, and I mean why not hey? To be perfectly honest, I’d rather someone asked than guessed, or spent the entirety of the time we are together staring. So to the person who aske, and then apologised- no need to be sorry!
One thing I’ve learnt as I’ve grown up is that if I tell people what happened when they ask, I’m in control of what they know. I have the power to say what I’m comfortable in, and to keep what I’m not ready to share. So having said this, here is what I’m happy to tell you all xx
So this is me at 2 years old, not long after my initial injury at 22 months old. My injury was as a result of a traumatic incident with boiling hot water and I subsequently ended up doing a long stint in hospital. Various surgeries, procedures and recovery took place to get me to where I am today.
I have burns scarring covering the left side of my face, my neck, chest, back and hand, and have skin graft and surgery scars on my legs and hips. I have continuously had surgeries and medical procedures since my intial injury, and will continue to do so into the future to allow me more mobility, provide me with more comfort and to make sure I am able to live life as well as I can (etc.)
This is me now (literally 10 minutes ago!) Big change ey?!
Here I am post laser surgery procedure number 5 ( I’m sure I’ll chat about this at some other time so look out for it if you’re interested). I have been brought up with a positive outlook on life and my scarring. My parents have always taught me not o hide away, but to live my life like anyone else. I try to live life to the full, to just be me and not hide who I am. My scarring does not stop me from doing anything (except sunbathing and tanning!), it just sometimes makes life a ittle more complicated. I’m open to questions, I try to be as honest as I can be without giving away too much private information, and I love the idea that through asking me things people may learn or gain a different outlook on scarring.
Through my life I have learnt a lot about trauma, pain and the effect of such accidents on young children. I have grown up learning, managing and living with my mental health conditions. Life isn’t always great, but it is doable, and often happy.